Lack of Physical Intimacy: Busyness, Stress, & Anxiety

 

Here is the third post on lack of desire for physical intimacy focusing on busyness, stress, and anxiety:

Busyness, stress, and anxiety:

Some women might simply feel that they have too much to do. With all the pressures and stresses on their mind they might feel like they don’t have enough time to relax and be physically intimate. Or less they might not be able to handle the emotional pressure of being physically intimate while also addressing all the stressor's in their life.

Personal Example:

Macey has a very busy lifestyle. She is going to school and taking nineteen credits. She is always working part time, and is pregnant with their first child. She gets stressed when household responsibilities aren’t done, and wishes she had more time to spend cleaning, and cooking for her husband. She reverts to avoiding physical intimacy because she simply feels like she doesn’t have time.

What research has found:

According to a recent study by the National Sleep Foundation, about one in every four married or cohabitating Americans claim they're so sleep-deprived that they're often too tired to have sex. Many women are satisfied with their relationships and enjoy physical intimacy once it is under way but are just too tired, stressed, or busy to feel sexual desire.

What you can do:

There are a couple of ways to help you get back on track. It is important to get a regular sleep schedule. Try sticking to a regular bedtime, and devote the last hour or so of your waking time to your spouse. Even if you do nothing more than cuddle, you're setting a schedule that allows time for more when you're ready. Eventually, your mood will follow. Another tip is to make your arousal pattern work with your schedule and that of your spouse so you can enjoy physical intimacy. That might mean being intimate during the morning, or even during lunch time. You have to find what works best for you and your spouse. 

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